Let’s face it: It doesn’t matter if you are the initiator or on the
receiving end, break-ups can be tough. But fret not, Passion Diva, it
doesn’t have to be all bad. Think of it as a favor from the universe to
you and use this opportunity to become even stronger than we know you
already are! Feeling hopeless still? These tips will help you get back
on track and on the road to recovery.
Give yourself time to feel bad.
Maybe it seems like you need to put on a brave face for everyone or
you feel like you don’t have a right to be sad. Whatever the reason,
give yourself some much needed time to mope. Just because the person you
were with wasn’t blood, doesn’t mean the connection wasn’t there at
some point and you need to allow yourself to mourn that. Here’s the
caveat though: Give yourself a set window of time to feel bad. Sure, you
could wallow in your sorrows for a few weeks but think about all the
great stuff you will miss. Set a time frame (such as a week) and do
whatever it is you need to do emotionally during that time. Cry, eat
some ice cream, and watch romantic movies, whatever! At the end of that
time period though, it’s time to put the tissues away and decide you’re
going to move on and take strides to be happy and go on to the next
step….
Don’t talk about your ex constantly.
We all have a tendency to romanticize someone once they are gone and
that tends to make us talk about them all the time. On the flip side,
you might be so bitter over someone who wronged you deeply that you just
need to vent to everyone you have contact with. Don’t get us wrong,
your friends are there to help you through hard times but make sure
you’re giving their poor ears a break after awhile. Besides, remember
the old adage, “Out of sight, out of mind”? This applies to your speech
too. Stop talking about someone and you might just magically wake up
someday and realize that you’re over it.
Take up a new hobby or invest yourself in an old one.
Remember all those things you used to do before you got into a
relationship or that new thing you’ve been meaning to try? Now is the
time to discover and rediscover those passions! Take the time to throw
yourself into something you love and make it yours. When you do
something you enjoy, it helps take your mind off the stresses of
external life. Take the time you would have spent with your ex and start
devoting it to your business or learning a new skill. You’d be
surprised how you will grow in your adopted hobby and it might even
yield some new friends, as well as rich experiences.
A break-up doesn’t have to be the end of the world. If anything, it’s
an opportunity to shine and grow into a better person, as well as learn
from your past so you can have a better future!
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